The holiday season captures our hearts and imaginations almost from the time we are infants. Throughout our childhood, we look so forward to this time, and then as we move on to become parents and grandparents, we find a whole new meaning. However, the holiday season can be a stressful time for someone going through a divorce, but it doesn't have to be.
Take Care of Yourself
Maybe your divorce involves children. That's always the worst. Still, you have to remember that you are going through the divorce also, not just the kids. Remember that in between making sure that everyone else involved in getting along okay, you take some time for yourself.
That's tough, especially when a lot of types of work ramp up for the holidays. If you can get away and unplug for a while, take the opportunity. Don't feel like you are doing something wrong by taking a little time to reflect on things. Taking care of yourself is just as important as everything else.
Be Wary of Toxic Behaviors
It's perfectly normal and understandable to be depressed as you go into the holiday season fighting through a divorce. It can seem like your whole world is unraveling, and uncertainty is greeting you at every turn. It can be very tempting to try to treat that depression with alcohol, or even drugs.
Remember that alcohol and drugs only offer a temporary respite from what is going on. On top of that, an altered state of consciousness could lead you to do things you might regret when the effects wear off.
It's a tough time, and everyone can understand why you might think about turning to comfort from chemicals, but the reality is that this is not real comfort and may only lead to a more difficult situation down the road.
Don't Let Family and Friends Add to the Stress
We all have that family member or friend that really means well, but the more they get involved, the worse things get. Going back to our first topic of taking care of yourself, don't be afraid to shut out some people for a little while if you know it is only going to add to the stress of your current situation.
This includes family gatherings. Maybe you have to sit this one out this year. Your family and friends should understand. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself, take care of those you care about, and give yourself the best opportunity to come out of the holiday season ready to get on with it and not worse for the wear.
A divorce is already tough, and the holidays can, unfortunately, magnify the effect. Use these tips to keep yourself treading water through the holiday season and keeping a good head on your shoulders as you wait to get on to the next stage of your life.
If you need help with the divorce process, contact Friedman & Friedman, PLLC, today at (914) 873-4410.