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Dos & Don'ts of Co-Parenting

Dos & Don'ts of Co-Parenting

Co-parenting isn't always easy, especially when emotions are high and communication is strained. However, it's essential to put aside any differences and prioritize the well-being of your children. To make co-parenting work, here are some dos and don'ts that every divorced parent should keep in mind.

The Dos

1. Communicate effectively: Effective communication is key to successful co-parenting. Keep each other informed about your child's activities, appointments, and school events. Use a shared calendar or app to stay on top of things and avoid miscommunication.

2. Be flexible: Co-parenting requires flexibility. Be willing to adjust your schedule if necessary to accommodate your child's needs. Remember, it's not about you or your ex-spouse; it's about your child.

3. Respect each other's boundaries: It's important to respect each other's boundaries, especially when it comes to personal space and time. Avoid dropping by unannounced or calling excessively. Instead, set up a regular schedule for communication and visitation.

4. Encourage a healthy relationship with the other parent: Encourage your child to have a healthy relationship with the other parent. Avoid speaking negatively about your ex-spouse in front of your child. Instead, focus on the positive aspects of their relationship.

5. Seek professional help if necessary: If you're struggling to co-parent effectively, don't hesitate to seek professional help. A family therapist or mediator can help you work through any issues and develop a co-parenting plan that works for everyone.


1. Use your child as a messenger: Avoid using your child as a messenger between you and your ex-spouse. This can put unnecessary pressure on your child and create confusion.

2. Speak negatively about your ex-spouse: Speaking negatively about your ex-spouse in front of your child can be harmful. It can create a negative image of the other parent and cause your child to feel torn between you and your ex-spouse.

3. Make unilateral decisions: Avoid making unilateral decisions about your child's life without consulting the other parent. This can create resentment and lead to conflict.

4. Disrupt visitation schedules: Respect the visitation schedule and avoid disrupting it without a valid reason. This can create tension and lead to conflict.

5. Involve your child in adult issues: Avoid involving your child in adult issues, such as financial or legal matters. This can cause unnecessary stress and anxiety for your child.

Friedman & Friedman PLLC Is Here for You

Co-parenting can be challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, it can be a positive experience for everyone involved. Remember to communicate effectively, be flexible, respect each other's boundaries, encourage a healthy relationship with the other parent, and seek professional help if necessary. By following these dos and don'ts, you can create a successful co-parenting plan that works for you and your family.

If you're struggling with co-parenting following a divorce, Friedman & Friedman PLLC, Attorneys at Law can help. Our experienced family law attorneys can provide you with the guidance and support you need to navigate this difficult time. Contact us today to learn more.